___________ As you begin to access your anger constructively and with ease you will transform your life and those around you. You will tap into liberation - the key to enlightenment. ____________ We are only truly human as we allow our emotions to flow through us - uninterrupted - like elixirs cleansing us and delivering us into each new moment, 'Now'. A being who does not feel emotions is not a human. They are an Continue Reading
‘A New Anger Map’
Here is a simple guide map for empowering you through healthy anger … 1. Notice when you are feeling anger. 2. Ask yourself: "Which of the '3 Purposes of Anger' is this?" (Has a boundary been violated; is a boundary about to be breached; is my soul calling me to grow?) 3. Notice any tendency in you to direct this anger inward or aggressively outward. Get yourself into your Observer Continue Reading
Healing Ourselves – Healing Our Planet – Part Two
When we - individually and collectively - learn and practice the '3rd Way of Expressing Anger Constructively', there is no longer a danger of destruction in the face of our anger. In fact, our anger becomes purely constructive. It dismantles that which is obstructive to well-being. And in its former place it creates something refreshing and new. We might aptly call this 'de-constructive' - dismantling that which is untrue, that which is Continue Reading
The Soul’s Calling
Anger is always the soul calling us. Either it is identifying to us - through our experience of pain and betrayal - where a boundary needs to be created to repair and thus to preserve our integrity. Or it is identifying to us pro-actively - through evoking our anger or even our rage prior to a potential boundary breaching event - that a boundary we have in place is non-negotiable. Or - our anger, one of our most valuable inner Continue Reading
The Faces of Anger
There are many faces of anger. Just like the Inuit who have some twenty-two words to describe the subtleties and nuances of what we call 'snow', there are many shades of anger. Let's explore some of these - to unmask them, shifting us into power - our ability to navigate our way through them and into greater joy. Frustration, irritation, edginess, resentment, passive aggressiveness, impatience, cynicism, sarcasm, pointed jokes, withdrawal, Continue Reading
What are Boundaries? – Part Two
Healthy boundaries arise from the level of our instinct. They are our deeper wisdom's way of telling us what we need to do or say in order to preserve our well-being. As humans we spend a lot of time and resources creating and maintaining boundaries toward others and toward nature. We spend relatively little time and resources setting inner boundaries toward ourselves. It is the latter kind of boundary that hones our maturity - Continue Reading
What are Boundaries? – Part One
Boundaries are the mechanisms via which we protect and enhance our integrity. It is easy for us to comprehend physical boundaries. We understand and we accept that fences are erected to keep dogs out of gardens and children in safe playgrounds. Longitudinal and latitudinal check points are maintained at roads and at ports to defend countries and to maintain their perceived sovereignty. We keep liquids that are poisonous locked away from Continue Reading
How to Use the ‘Map of Emotions’ – The Practice
____________ This is a practice. Just like any great artist or athlete, mastery arises through practice. ____________ This is a practice. Just like a great artist or athlete, mastery comes through practice. Every time you feel miserable, take a 'time out' to begin at Step 1 and work your way through to Step 4 or 5, whichever is appropriate for you. The more often you practice these simple Steps, you will personally gain an Continue Reading
How to Use the ‘Map of Emotions’ – The Steps
____________ Why are we not taught this in kindergarten? This is absolutely essential in the 'guidebook' of how to successfully be a human. ____________ Step 1. Become self-aware. Notice how you are feeling. Does it feel good? Does it serve you? Does it inspire you? Does it support your mental, emotional and physical health? If you are already feeling good - great! You may wish to improve it. If Continue Reading
How to Use the ‘Map of Emotions’
As you practice recognizing the emotions in you - just like a musician practices musical scales and an artist practices mixing paint - you can begin to use this awareness in an empowering, life-changing way. You are no longer at the whim of whatever emotion arises in you. You can determine what you feel, and when. Why is this so valuable? Because what we are feeling emotionally is a direct reflection of what we are thinking. And Continue Reading