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As you begin to access your anger
constructively and with ease
you will transform your life and those around you.
You will tap into
liberation -
the key to enlightenment.
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We are only truly human as we allow our emotions to flow through us – uninterrupted – like elixirs cleansing us and delivering us into each new moment, ‘Now’.
A being who does not feel emotions is not a human. They are an entirely different race.
As you begin to access your anger with ease – allowing it to flow Constructively, respecting the ’3 Ground Rules’ – you will transform your life and those around you. You will tap into liberation – the key to enlightenment.
I do meet you at ‘the door’ …
Ariole K. Alei
This ‘book’ was completed on
January 14, 2008
In
Vancouver, BC, Canada
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We are only truly human
as we allow
our emotions to flow through us -
uninterrupted -
like elixirs cleansing us
and delivering us into each new moment,
Now.
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Listen to this post as a ‘podcast’! Congratulations – You Are Becoming A Fully Human Human recorded using the omni-dimensional‘Star Microphone’ by Wehnersound.
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* This post is #65 in a series of in the syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World by Ariole K. Alei. Order the book – or instantly download a copy – here. Or listen to the 4-Part Audio Course.
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Here is a simple guide map for empowering you through healthy anger …
1. Notice when you are feeling anger.
2. Ask yourself: “Which of the ’3 Purposes of Anger’ is this?” (Has a boundary been violated; is a boundary about to be breached; is my soul calling me to grow?)
3. Notice any tendency in you to direct this anger inward or aggressively outward. Get yourself into your Observer position.
4. Notice which of the ’3 Ways to Express Anger Constructively’ you feel most open to in this moment, now. (Body movement, voice, and/or creativity.)
5. Remember the ’3 Ground Rules for Expressing Anger’. (Don’t hurt yourself; don’t hurt anyone else; don’t hurt anything else.)
6. Go for it! Let your anger energy flow through Body Movement, Voice and/or Creativity. Get out of the way! Allow it to flow through you and out of you.
7. Notice how you feel – while the anger is moving and especially as it fades away.
You’ve just witnessed a storm. In fact, you’ve been thee Captain and you’ve navigated thee storm. You have not only kept your ship intact, you’ve won thee respect of your sailors and you’re taking the treasures triumphantly home.
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Anger is
thee route ‘up’.
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Listen to this post as a ‘podcast’! ‘A New Anger Map’ recorded using the omni-dimensional ‘Star Microphone’ by Wehnersound.
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* This post is #64 in a series of in the syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World by Ariole K. Alei. Order the book – or instantly download a copy – here. Or listen to the 4-Part Audio Course.
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When we – individually and collectively – learn and practice the ’3rd Way of Expressing Anger Constructively’, there is no longer a danger of destruction in the face of our anger.
In fact, our anger becomes purely constructive. It dismantles that which is obstructive to well-being. And in its former place it creates something refreshing and new.
We might aptly call this ‘de-constructive’ – dismantling that which is untrue, that which is unsustainable, that which is suffocating our life force – and from this newly accessible clarity and energy, constructing anew.
Anger is an energy of ‘God’ – just as all emotions are.
When we discipline ourselves from justifying our outwardly violent use of anger – and our inwardly violent use of anger – we have only one thing left: the healthy, mature expression of our anger as a powerful energy with which to restore and to create.
Among us humans, historically there have been two basic types: aggressive manipulators and passive bystanders.
Only as we begin to exercise the ’3rd Way of Expressing Anger Constructively’ will we begin to right our planetary ails and ascend to a new level of our potential as human beings.
Anger is our route ‘up’.
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Our pure anger
has the power
to blast us out of perpetual suffering
and into
a new realm
of what it means to be human.
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Listen to this post as a ‘podcast’! Healing Ourselves – Healing Our Planet – Part Two recorded using the omni-dimensional ‘Star Microphone’ by Wehnersound.
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* This post is #63 in a series of in the syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World by Ariole K. Alei. Order the book – or instantly download a copy – here. Or listen to the 4-Part Audio Course.
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Our pure anger energy has the power to blast us out of perpetual suffering and into a new realm of what it means to be human.
Our anger – just like a rocket being propelled out of the earth’s atmosphere into ‘space’ and ultimately into the magnetic field of another planet or the moon – is the power to propel us there.
Without access to our anger, we are all but doomed.
For no other human or non-human energy – beyond the purity of LOVE itself, which, for most people, is far more challenging to access than is their pure ANGER which, when carefully directed, DOES align us into our true and pure state of heavenly LOVE – which has the power to propel us so.
As long as we are out of touch with our anger – through fear of it, or just plain unawareness and lack of practice – we are tolerating atrocities all around us moment to moment, day by day.
Our anger is our ‘backbone’ – the means via which we speak our truth when it is being violated.
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Listen to this post as a ‘podcast’! Healing Ourselves – Healing Our Planet – Part One recorded using the omni-dimensional ‘Star Microphone’ by Wehnersound.
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* This post is #62 in a series of in the syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World by Ariole K. Alei. Order the book – or instantly download a copy – here. Or listen to the 4-Part Audio Course.
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Anger is always the soul calling us.
Either it is identifying to us – through our experience of pain and betrayal – where a boundary needs to be created to repair and thus to preserve our integrity.
Or it is identifying to us pro-actively – through evoking our anger or even our rage prior to a potential boundary breaching event – that a boundary we have in place is non-negotiable.
Or – our anger, one of our most valuable inner ‘messengers’ – it is purely our soul calling us to grow.
When we begin to recognize that this is what anger is, we can be much swifter, more cooperative, and far more willing to respond to it appropriately.
We can repair a boundary, erect a boundary, fortify a boundary, or simply grow.
The emotions are one of the most direct, key ways that our higher consciousness speaks to us. They are not bad – or paradoxically – good.
They are just like a telephone – a means for our soul to communicate with us.
As we recognize that this is what they are, we can de-stigmatize them. And we can get on with heeding them purely – which is why they exist.
Our emotions are meant to be our beacons – our guiding lights. As long as we are confused about their purpose – and their meaning – we are drifting aimlessly in the dark, banging up against each other and against this precious planet as we do so.
If ‘God’ spoke to you … would you respond?
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Anger is always
our soul calling us
to grow.
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Listen to this post as a ‘podcast’! The Soul’s Calling recorded using the omni-dimensional ‘Star Microphone’ by Wehnersound.
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* This post is #61 in a series of in the syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World by Ariole K. Alei. Order the book – or instantly download a copy – here. Or listen to the 4-Part Audio Course.
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There are many faces of anger. Just like the Inuit who have some twenty-two words to describe the subtleties and nuances of what we call ‘snow’, there are many shades of anger.
Let’s explore some of these – to unmask them, shifting us into power – our ability to navigate our way through them and into greater joy.
Frustration, irritation, edginess, resentment, passive aggressiveness, impatience, cynicism, sarcasm, pointed jokes, withdrawal, avoidance, undermining, resistance, failure to respond, tit-for-tat, vengence, hate, rage, attack, harmful thoughts, cruelty, booby-traps, criticism – these can all be forms of anger.
When we are not clean with our anger – articulating a clear boundary in response to it – we manipulate. We undermine others with our misery.
Every time we fail to express our anger energy cleanly, we disempower ourselves.
When I blame … When I complain … When I’m impatient … When I get frustrated … These are all examples of allowing the anger energy to ‘spin’. Rather than expressing** it – allowing it to run through and out of me, cleaning and empowering me and delivering me to greater clarity and wisdom as it does so – I languish in my incapacity. I ‘shoot myself in the foot’.
I disempower myself.
** Expressing means to ‘press forth from’ – to release. We assume that this necessarily means expressing ‘to’ someone – typically to that which has evoked our anger, or to someone whom we feel safe enough to express it to.
Expressing our anger doesn’t need to mean this at all. In fact, often when we express our anger ‘to’ someone, we dig it deeper. We create a tangled mess.
So instead of evoking this deep and unnecessary pain and thus suffering, I suggest that you explore the series of ’3′ suggestions that I’ve outlined for you here in this book.
’3 Purposes of Anger’, ’3 Ways to Express Anger’, ’3 Ways to Move Anger Energy Constructively’, ’3 Ground Rules for Moving Anger’, ’3 Ways to Interface With Any Moment’.
Through practicing and becoming adept at these – making these your faithful friends – you will never need to ‘confront’ anyone angrily again; you will shift yourself out of anger UP - to a higher, lighter, and more delightful emotional experience inside of you; you will become free of the tyranny of hate, blame, and the incessant downward spiral into ‘hell’.
You will become free.
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Every time
we fail to express
our anger energy cleanly,
we disempower ourselves.
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Listen to this post as a ‘podcast’! The Faces of Anger recorded using the omni-dimensional ‘Star Microphone’ by Wehnersound.
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* This post is #60 in a series of in the syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World by Ariole K. Alei. Order the book – or instantly download a copy – here. Or listen to the 4-Part Audio Course.
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Healthy boundaries arise from the level of our instinct. They are our deeper wisdom’s way of telling us what we need to do or say in order to preserve our well-being.
As humans we spend a lot of time and resources creating and maintaining boundaries toward others and toward nature. We spend relatively little time and resources setting inner boundaries toward ourselves.
It is the latter kind of boundary that hones our maturity – individually and as a species. It is as we become aware of how we contribute to the polluting of our physical, emotional, mental and psychic worlds that we can set appropriate personal, internal boundaries and clean up our act.
The most evident of these in the context of our discussion here is to become aware of our emotional states.
As we gift diligent attention and care to this, respecting our co-creative ability to create our own world and thus our personal experiences of it – we begin to practice willfully shifting our emotional states to those that have thee most benevolent and beneficial ripple effects possible.
In any moment I am either emitting love into thee world (thee upward spirals) or I am emitting fear (thee downward spirals).
With practice I become more mature – I become masterful at ensuring that my contributions to thee emotional world – which, we have explored, immediately effect thee physical and thee mental world – are of a positive nature.
In other words, being in this moment, I am intentionally bringing more love into this world as a result of my emotional choices.
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In any moment
I am either emanating love into thee world
(thee upward spirals)
or I am emitting fear into thee world
(thee downward spirals).
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Listen to this post as a ‘podcast’! What Are Boundaries_ – Part Two recorded using thee omni-dimensional ‘Star Microphone’ by Wehnersound.
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* This post is #59 in a series of in thee syndicated excerpts from Thee Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming Thee World by Ariole K. Alei. Order thee book – or instantly download a copy – here. Or listen to thee 4-Part Audio Course.
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Boundaries are the mechanisms via which we protect and enhance our integrity.
It is easy for us to comprehend physical boundaries. We understand and we accept that fences are erected to keep dogs out of gardens and children in safe playgrounds.
Longitudinal and latitudinal check points are maintained at roads and at ports to defend countries and to maintain their perceived sovereignty. We keep liquids that are poisonous locked away from liquids that we ingest.
Physical boundaries can be a fence, a stop sign, a wall, a locked cabinet, a danger signal. Physical boundaries suggest that danger will be experienced if these boundaries are crossed.
Most of the boundaries we create – those we need for our congruence, our empowerment, and our safety – are not physical at all. They are the ways in which we hold our bodies, the glances of our eyes, the tones of our voices.
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Healthy boundaries arise from
the level of our instinct.
They are our
deeper wisdom’s way
of telling us
what it is
that we need to do
or to say
in order to preserve
our well-being.
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Listen to this post as a ‘podcast’! What Are Boundaries_ – Part One recorded using the omni-dimensional ‘Star Microphone’ by Wehnersound.
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* This post is #58 in a series of in the syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World by Ariole K. Alei. Order the book – or instantly download a copy – here. Or listen to the 4-Part Audio Course.
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This is a practice.
Just like any great artist or athlete,
mastery arises through practice.
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This is a practice. Just like a great artist or athlete, mastery comes through practice. Every time you feel miserable, take a ‘time out’ to begin at Step 1 and work your way through to Step 4 or 5, whichever is appropriate for you.
The more often you practice these simple Steps, you will personally gain an extraordinary gift. You will begin to experience these remarkable discoveries with greater volition – no matter who you are:
- You will ‘drop’ into lower levels of emotion much less frequently.
- When you do drop into them, you will become self-aware much more quickly and remember to practice Steps 1 to 4 or 5, shifting yourself into a much more desirable emotional state each and every time you do.
- The ‘gaps’ between your being in thee higher emotional states – that is, the times when you fall out of them – will became farther and farther apart. Being in lower emotional states will become the rarity. Being in higher emotional states will become your norm.
If you do one empowering new thing this year, practice navigating thee ‘Map of Emotions’ and practice these 5 Steps. Your entire life will become richer and happier. Opportunities will abound for you. You will live in joy and emanate this out into thee world around you. You will become a beacon of Happiness, Love and Light.
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Learn how to navigate thee ‘Map of Emotions’.
Your entire life will become richer and happier.
Opportunities will abound for you.
You will live in joy
and emanate this effortlessly
into thee world around you.
You will become a beacon of Happiness,
Love, and Light.
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Listen to this post as a ‘podcast’! How to Use the ‘Map of Emotions’ – The Practice recorded using the omni-dimensional ‘Star Microphone’ by Wehnersound.
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* This post is #57 in a series of in the syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World by Ariole K. Alei. Order the book – or instantly download a copy – here. Or listen to the 4-Part Audio Course.
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[1] These 17 levels of consciousness were first mapped by David R. Hawkins in Power vs. Force
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Why are we not taught this
in kindergarten?
This is absolutely essential
in the ‘guidebook’
of how to successfully be a human.
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Step 1. Become self-aware. Notice how you are feeling. Does it feel good? Does it serve you? Does it inspire you? Does it support your mental, emotional and physical health? If you are already feeling good – great! You may wish to improve it. If you are feeling crappy, you will definitely want to move to Step 2.
Step 2. Ask yourself: ”Where am I right now on the ‘Map of Emotions?” A feeling state will immediately come into your awareness – one of the descriptor words from the ‘Map of Emotions’.
Step 3. Ask yourself: “Where do I want to be on the ‘Map of Emotions’? How do I want to feel?” Like magic, one of the descriptor words from the ‘Map of Emotions’ will immediately come into your awareness. This is your deeper wisdom identifying to you where you can be, now.
Step 4. Plug yourself in to this new emotional level – just like a switchboard operator unplugging you from one level and plugging you in to your desired level. Because you recognize the emotional levels now, you can shift your resonance from one to another. With practice you will be able to do this in an instant. Like a ‘miracle’ your feeling, thinking and body states will shift to where you direct them to.
Step 5. If you aren’t able (it may take practice) to plug yourself in to the emotional state that your deeper self identified to you in Step 3, then ask yourself: “What emotional state can I plug in to right now?” And do so. Experience it for a few moments … then ask again: “What emotional state can I plug in to right now?” Continue this – leap frogging a few levels at a time – until you arrive in the emotional state which your deeper wisdom identified to you in Step 3.
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Listen to this post as a ‘podcast’! How to Use the ‘Map of Emotions’ – The Steps recorded using the omni-dimensional ‘Star Microphone’ by Wehnersound.
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* This post is #56 in a series of in the syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World by Ariole K. Alei. Order the book – or instantly download a copy – here. Or listen to the 4-Part Audio Course.
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[1] These 17 levels of consciousness were first mapped by David R. Hawkins in Power vs. Force
