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Shame is the most lowly emotion that a human experiences. There is no benefit in shame – no gain from experiencing it, no opposite to aspire to. Of all the emotions, it is the only one that is purposeless. It is shame from which we drop into absolute recklessness, carelessness and suicide – physically and metaphorically.
Being the lowest or basest of the emotions on the rainbow, shame is often identified in the first chakra of the body – in sexuality, security, and the right-to-be-alive. Unlike the other emotions which begin to have increasingly vibrant colors – light – to them, shame is the embodiment of black – the absence of light.
For a brief instant, step into the energy field of shame.
Memories may flash in you, like snapshots on a movie screen. You may feel sensations in your body or hear inner voices. Notice how your body reacts. Does it tighten? Flinch? Shrink inward? Be as alert as you can possibly be for these few moments.
Familiarize yourself with the energy field of shame so that you can recognize it as an observer in future. As you master this, you will never ever need to languish in it again.
As soon as you have a sense of the energy field of shame, step out of it. Become an observer simply watching it – from the outside. This returns you to a place of choice.
Remember … We are traveling UP this ladder of emotions. Keep reading the upcoming posts, as we are not here to linger in Shame.
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Listen to this post as a ‘podcast’! The ‘Map of Emotions’ – #1 – Shame recorded using the omni-dimensional ‘Star Microphone’ by Wehnersound.
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* This post is #36 in a series of in the syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World by Ariole K. Alei. Order the book – or instantly download a copy – here. Or listen to the 4-Part Audio Course.
* Image with gratitude to Jan Rosgen.
[1] These 17 levels of consciousness were first mapped by David R. Hawkins in Power vs. Force
and developed as the ‘C-Walk’ (Consciousness Walk) by my co-founder of Veraxis and beloved soul friend, Colin Hillstrom.
And so … as I guide you through this ‘Map of Emotions’,[1] keep in mind that you always have three options of how to relate to any of the emotions.
I will guide you to briefly step inside of the energy field of each emotion to familiarize yourself with it.
And then I will guide you to step out of it to the empowered place of the witness.
This ‘guided tour’ is about lifting you out of denial and into your powerful recognition of the emotional path that you and every other human is always walking.
Let’s begin …
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Listen to this post as a ‘podcast’! The ‘Map of Emotions’ – Introduction recorded using the omni-dimensional ‘Star Microphone’ by Wehnersound.
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* This post is #35 in a series of syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World by Ariole K. Alei. Order the book – softcover shipped to you, or instant download. Or listen to the 4-Part Audio Course.
* Images with gratitude to Jan Rosgen.
[1] These 17 levels of consciousness were first mapped by David R. Hawkins in Power vs. Force
and developed as the ‘C-Walk’ (Consciousness Walk) by my husband, Colin Hillstrom.
The third option – just like the 3rd Way to Express Anger – is largely unknown within our human culture. It is what meditators becomes so proficient at. It is simply observing. Witnessing.
The power of the witness is little understood amongst humanity. Like in the quantum physics “observer effect”, the power of the witnessing mind ‘holds space’ for transformation within the system that it is witnessing.
We readily assume that, to effect change in a situation, we inherently must engage in it. This is not always true. We can understand it – and thus gain compassion for it – and offer guidance to it far better from the position of the witness than we can while in its midst.
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The third option
is largely unknown in our
human culture.
It is simply observing.
Witnessing.
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And so … as I guide you through this ‘Map of Emotions’,[1] keep in mind that you always have three options of how to relate to any of the emotions that we explore. I will guide you to briefly step inside of the energy field of each emotion to familiarize yourself with it. And then I will guide you to step out of it to the empowered place of the witness. This ‘guided tour’ is about lifting you out of denial and into your powerful recognition of the emotional path that you and every other human is always walking.
Let’s begin …
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Listen to this post as a ‘podcast’! ’3 Ways to Engage in Any Moment’ – #3 recorded using the omni-dimensional ‘Star Microphone’ by Wehnersound.
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* This post is #34 in a series of syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World by Ariole K. Alei. Order the book – softcover shipped to you, or instant download. Or listen to the 4-Part Audio Course.
* Images with gratitude to The Power of Anger.
[1] These 17 levels of consciousness were first mapped by David R. Hawkins in Power vs Force and developed as the “C-Walk” (Consciousness Walk) by my husband, Colin Hillstrom.
The second option is to wallow in it.
Many people in our culture are masters at this. The media thrives on it. Wallowing is about drama. It is about climbing inside a ‘story’ and stoking its fire with our attention. It is about exacerbating what is simply something to deal with – into something so colossal that it ‘entertains’ us.
When we wallow in a moment – or in an emotion – we temporarily lose perspective. We believe that what we are focusing our rapt attention on is all that exists in that moment. This is living with blinders on. When we identify ourselves with a moment – or an emotion – in such a way, we lose perspective of the totality of who we are and what we are capable of.
In short, we diminish ourselves profoundly.
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We assume that -
to effect change in a situation -
we must engage in it.
This is not always true.
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Listen to this post as a ‘podcast’! ’3 Ways to Engage in Any Moment’ – #2 recorded using the omni-dimensional ‘Star Microphone’ by Wehnersound.
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* This post is #33 in a series of syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World by Ariole K. Alei. Order the book – softcover shipped to you, or instant download. Or listen to the 4-Part Audio Course.
* Images with gratitude to The Power of Anger.
Before we begin, let me draw to your attention that there are 3 Ways to Interface with Any Moment – and thus with any of the emotions that we are about to explore.
The first option is denial – to ‘not notice’, to turn a blind eye, to be unconscious of. Denial serves a temporary purpose – sometimes. It allows us to remain unaware of something until we have the sufficient maturity, inner resources and attention available to deal with it. Often denial is a ‘default’ which keeps us out of our power and in our disillusioned sense of ourself.
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Listen to this post as a ‘podcast’! ’3 Ways to Engage in Any Moment’ – #1 recorded using the omni-dimensional ‘Star Microphone’ by Wehnersound.
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* This post is #32 in a series of syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World by Ariole K. Alei. Order the book – softcover shipped to you, or instant download. Or listen to the 4-Part Audio Course.
* Images with gratitude to The Power of Anger.
With this map in hand you will recognize the enormous value of befriending your anger – and the astronomical cost of failing to do so.
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At the end of this journey
I will highlight for you
a simple practice
of how to -
at will -
position yourself
anywhere on this emotional rainbow you wish to be.
This … is empowerment.
This … is liberation.
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Listen to this post as a ‘podcast’! Where Anger ‘Fits’ – Part Two recorded using the omni-dimensional ‘Star Microphone’ by Wehnersound.
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* This post is #31 in a series of syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World by Ariole K. Alei. Order the book – softcover shipped to you, or instant download. Or listen to the 4-Part Audio Course.
* Images with gratitude to The Power of Anger.
Anger is a vibration – an emotional vibration. It exists – it arises and it falls away – on a continuum of emotional vibrations. Just like a sound – a pitch – in a song. Just like a light in the sky as the sun rises, burns and sets.
I am about to guide you on a journey that you are familiar with yet unconscious of.
In-so-doing you will come to recognize where anger ‘fits’ on the continuum of emotions – what spirals down beneath it and what, when you have its rocket fuel engaged, you can spiral up to above it. With this map in hand you will recognize the enormous value of befriending your anger – and the astronomic cost of failing to do so. At the end of this journey I will highlight for you a simple practice of how to – at will – position yourself anywhere on this emotional rainbow you wish to be. This … is empowerment. This … is liberation.
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Listen to this post as a ‘podcast’! Where Anger ‘Fits’ – Part One recorded using the omni-dimensional ‘Star Microphone’ by Wehnersound.
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* This post is #30 in a series of syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World by Ariole K. Alei. Order the book – softcover shipped to you, or instant download. Or listen to the 4-Part Audio Course.
* Images with gratitude to The Power of Anger.
Take a moment to imagine a future situation in which anger arises in you – either ‘provoked’ by an outer circumstance, or simply because your soul is asking you – inviting you – to grow.
Notice yourself making a more empowered choice – choosing to respond to the message of your anger and either create a boundary where it was breached, create a boundary before it is breached, or follow the fresh, new guidance of your soul.
How do you feel? How does your body posture – your stature – shift? How about your breathing? Are your eyes more open, more awake? What about the expression on your face? How do you feel inside?
And what do you notice when you make an empowered choice to allow the anger energy to move constructively – rather than to direct it inward or outward aggressively?
And what means do you naturally choose for allowing this pure anger energy to flow? Body movement? Voice? Creativity? Or a combination of these?
What is this experience like for you?
What do you discover about yourself?
What is it like when you honor the 3 Ground Rules, ensuring that no one and no thing – including you – is hurt as this anger moves? What is it like for you to truly experience pure anger energy moving?
Who are you becoming … as you discover that there is nothing to fear in anger? That you can choose how to relate to it. That you can allow it to flow … to empower you … to renew you … to refresh you.
Just like a river … let your anger ‘water’ flow …
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You will feel confident.
You will step into your mastery,
your maturity.
You will claim
your rightful place
as an ally
of constructive anger.
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Listen to this post as a ‘podcast’! Where Your Anger Hides – Part Three recorded using the omni-dimensional ‘Star Microphone’ by Wehnersound.
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* This post is #29 in a series of syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World by Ariole K. Alei. Order the book – softcover shipped to you, or instant download. Or listen to the 4-Part Audio Course.
* Images with gratitude to The Power of Anger.
Take a moment to reflect …
In which of these area(s) do you most often feel angry?
Write whatever comes into your awareness inside of these piece(s) of your pie. Use extra sheets of paper if you need more space.
Take a moment just to breathe. Relax.
When you feel ready to, notice one of the entries you’ve written in your pie. Which of the 3 Purposes of Anger was occurring? Can you identify it?
How did you express this anger? Did you ‘stuff it’, turning it inward? Did you aggressively throw it outward? Or did you allow it to move constructively? Did you manage to completely follow the 3 Ground Rules, or were you a teeny bit messy?
Without judgment, just notice what you notice. If it is valuable to you, write these reflections down.
When you feel ready to, notice another of the entries you’ve written in your pie. And reflect on the above questions, writing down whatever assists you to step into your clean power.
If you were not constructive with the anger you expressed in your examples above, how can you – in future – relate differently to similar situations? What are your options?
The more prepared you are – the more mindful – the more empowered you will feel – and be – the next time(s) you experience anger. You won’t be caught off guard. You won’t feel afraid. You will feel confident. You will be prepared. And you will step into your mastery, your maturity. You will claim your rightful place as an ally of constructive anger.
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Listen to this post as a ‘podcast’! Where Your Anger Hides – Part Two recorded using the omni-dimensional ‘Star Microphone’ by Wehnersound.
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* This post is #28 in a series of syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World by Ariole K. Alei. Order the book – softcover shipped to you, or instant download. Or listen to the 4-Part Audio Course.
* Images with gratitude to The Power of Anger.
Any anger that you’ve felt and not expressed – ever – is stored inside you, now.
Let’s shine a flashlight and gently uncover it.
‘Life Wheel’
Take a piece of paper and draw as large a circle as you can on it. Divide this circle into eight ‘pieces of pie’ – with one horizontal line running across it, one vertical line running from top to bottom of it, and these four quarters divided again in half. Eight pieces of pie.
These are the primary areas of your life.
Just outside of each of these areas, write these words – one for each area …
- Health/vitality
- Money/finances
- Career/business/volunteering
- Home/office environment
- Romance/significant other
- Friends/family
- Personal growth/spirituality/character
- Fun/recreation
Like this …
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Listen to this post as a ‘podcast’! Where Your Anger Hides – Part One recorded using the omni-dimensional ‘Star Microphone’ by Wehnersound.
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* This post is #27 in a series of syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World by Ariole K. Alei. Order the book – softcover shipped to you, or instant download. Or listen to the 4-Part Audio Course.
* Images with gratitude to The Power of Anger.
