Here is a simple guide map for empowering you through healthy anger … 1. Notice when you are feeling anger. 2. Ask yourself: "Which of the '3 Purposes of Anger' is this?" (Has a boundary been violated; is a boundary about to be breached; is my soul calling me to grow?) 3. Notice any tendency in you to direct this anger inward or aggressively outward. Get yourself into your Observer Continue Reading
The Soul’s Calling
Anger is always the soul calling us. Either it is identifying to us - through our experience of pain and betrayal - where a boundary needs to be created to repair and thus to preserve our integrity. Or it is identifying to us pro-actively - through evoking our anger or even our rage prior to a potential boundary breaching event - that a boundary we have in place is non-negotiable. Or - our anger, one of our most valuable inner Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – #7 – Anger
Anger is among the most misunderstood and misconstrued energies in the human emotional spectrum. Anger is the 'rocket fuel' which propels us out of the lower, downward spiraling emotions (which, like opening a drain in a sink, act to suck us down). It is the power that blasts us up - into the realms of our true, glorious and benevolent nature. As we begin to recognize the '3 Purposes of Anger' and explore practicing the '3 Ways to Express Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – #2 – Guilt
Guilt is slightly more energetic than shame. Healthy guilt does serve a purpose. When we do or say something which is derogatory or boundary breaching towards ourself or someone else, guilt arises to alert us to this. When we recognize our inappropriate behavior and discipline ourself to not engage in this again, the energy of guilt falls away. Its message has been received. There is no reason for it to linger. Many people wallow in Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – #1 – Shame
Shame is the most lowly emotion that a human experiences. There is no benefit in shame - no gain from experiencing it, no opposite to aspire to. Of all the emotions, it is the only one that is purposeless. It is shame from which we drop into absolute recklessness, carelessness and suicide - physically and metaphorically. Being the lowest or basest of the emotions on the rainbow, shame is often identified in the first chakra of the body - in Continue Reading
Identifying ‘3 Ground Rules for Moving Anger’ in Your Life – Part 1
In what ways do you already move anger - through Body Movement, Voice or Creativity - that you might not have realized until now? What ways arise in your awareness in this moment that you feel open to exploring? When will you? Set a date with yourself - before you chicken out. There's nothing to fear - except fear itself. Moving anger - as long as you follow the 3 Ground Rules - can not hurt you. Try this. Your illusion of fear towards Continue Reading
Recognizing the 3 Purposes of Anger in Your Life
Take a moment to reflect on a recent situation in which you felt anger. Which of these 3 Purposes was the anger fulfilling? 1. Was the anger rising inside of you endeavoring to alert you to a boundary that had been breached? And / or to the need to create a boundary … precisely … 'there'? 2. Was the anger present inside of you endeavoring to alert you to this: that unless you erect or fortify a boundary, it is about to be breached? Was Continue Reading
3 Purposes of Anger – #3
3. The third way in which people begin to experience their anger is purely pro-active. This arisal of anger is how our soul entices us to grow. When we feel frustrated. When we feel 'fed up'. When we feel like we can't stand a situation any more - this is our soul nudging us to stretch out into a larger experience of ourselves and of life. Anger is what motivates us to grow. ____________ Anger is what motivates us Continue Reading
3 Purposes of Anger – #2
2. The second way in which most people - as they become more sensitive and alert to the nuances of anger - begin to recognize that they are experiencing anger is this: Before a boundary is about to be breached. They are attentive enough to their inner guidance - their inner wisdom - to recognize that their anger is a premonition. It is giving them foresight, encouraging them to erect a boundary before it is overstepped. As people Continue Reading
3 Purposes of Anger – #1
There are three distinct reasons why anger arises. Anger is an intelligence. It is our higher wisdom - our soul, our 'higher self' - speaking to us. Until now, we've not recognized this. And so we've not realized what it is saying. 1. The first way in which most people begin to recognize that they are experiencing anger is this: After a boundary has been breached. The purpose of anger in this case is to alert them to where Continue Reading