Guilt is slightly more energetic than shame. Healthy guilt does serve a purpose. When we do or say something which is derogatory or boundary breaching towards ourself or someone else, guilt arises to alert us to this. When we recognize our inappropriate behavior and discipline ourself to not engage in this again, the energy of guilt falls away. Its message has been received. There is no reason for it to linger. Many people wallow in Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – Intro
And so … as I guide you through this 'Map of Emotions',[1] keep in mind that you always have three options of how to relate to any of the emotions. I will guide you to briefly step inside of the energy field of each emotion to familiarize yourself with it. And then I will guide you to step out of it to the empowered place of the witness. This 'guided tour' is about lifting you out of denial and into your powerful recognition of the Continue Reading
3 Ways to Engage in Any Moment – #2
The second option is to wallow in it. Many people in our culture are masters at this. The media thrives on it. Wallowing is about drama. It is about climbing inside a 'story' and stoking its fire with our attention. It is about exacerbating what is simply something to deal with - into something so colossal that it 'entertains' us. When we wallow in a moment - or in an emotion - we temporarily lose perspective. We believe that what Continue Reading