Grief is the beginning of emotions washing through us to truly cleanse us. Grief occurs whenever we lose something - or something changes in our experience of it. There are five natural stages in grief, including disbelief, bargaining, sadness and anger. When we fully allow the course of grief to run through us, we arrive at acceptance. Acceptance is like a gate opening, encouraging and inviting us to move on. Many people get trapped Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – #3 – Apathy
Apathy is actually more energizing than shame or guilt. There is more potential for empowerment and self leadership here. Although there is an absence of inspiration or active energy, apathy is lighter and less 'fossilized'. In apathy there is a sense of hopelessness and despair - yet these perceptions exist only from within the vantage of being in apathy. As soon as we lift ourselves out of it - into the observer position or into an Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – #2 – Guilt
Guilt is slightly more energetic than shame. Healthy guilt does serve a purpose. When we do or say something which is derogatory or boundary breaching towards ourself or someone else, guilt arises to alert us to this. When we recognize our inappropriate behavior and discipline ourself to not engage in this again, the energy of guilt falls away. Its message has been received. There is no reason for it to linger. Many people wallow in Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – #1 – Shame
Shame is the most lowly emotion that a human experiences. There is no benefit in shame - no gain from experiencing it, no opposite to aspire to. Of all the emotions, it is the only one that is purposeless. It is shame from which we drop into absolute recklessness, carelessness and suicide - physically and metaphorically. Being the lowest or basest of the emotions on the rainbow, shame is often identified in the first chakra of the body - in Continue Reading
3 Ways to Express Anger – #2
2. They (we) turn it outward - violently. We allow it to spin out of control. We lash out with it, so ashamed that we are feeling it that we double and triple it in proportion to itself. We fight, we fight with words, we undermine, we cut, we shoot, we steal, we rape, we … These 2 Ways to Express Anger are rife because we, as humanity, haven't evolved to recognize and practice the third. Now it's time. We are capable. Continue Reading
3 Ways to Express Anger – #1
1. They (we) turn it inward. This results in depression, apathy, guilt, shame, moroseness, distancing, disconnection from society, addictions and even suicide. ____________ Listen to this post as a 'podcast'! '3 Ways to Express Anger' - #1 recorded using the omni-dimensional 'Star Microphone' by Wehnersound. ____________ * This post is #14 in a series of syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Continue Reading
Why Courage? – Part Two
Yes, we all have courage in some areas of our lives. Quite specifically, our courage lies in areas that we feel confident in. So what about the other areas – the topics and territories we’re less familiar with? We (our egos) show up shy there. We (they) doubt that we can respond without falling flat on our own faces. And so we back away. We turn our head. We avert our eyes. We ‘pretend’ that we’re not noticing. We pretend that nothing is Continue Reading
Cultivating Courage – The Practice – Part 1
I heard a few years ago – and this amazed me and ‘struck me between the eyes’, for it is so profoundly true – that the primary reason why people say ‘no’ to invitations that would nourish and inspire them is that they haven’t figured out how they can say ‘yes’. They haven’t figured out how it can work for them. Simply put, they need a map. They need to ‘see how it is possible’. They need a way-shower, someone to demonstrate or Continue Reading