Grief is the beginning of emotions washing through us to truly cleanse us.
Grief occurs whenever we lose something – or something changes in our experience of it.
There are five natural stages in grief, including disbelief, bargaining, sadness and anger. When we fully allow the course of grief to run through us, we arrive at acceptance. Acceptance is like a gate opening, encouraging and inviting us to move on.
Many people get trapped in grief. They avoid the sadness or anger that they inevitably feel, uncomfortable in its presence or even ashamed of it.
As we are so rutted in our denial of death in our culture, we are paralyzed in the face of the natural process of grief. And so we get stuck in it. There are millions of people among us who are so caught in the past – unresolved in relation to personal losses and cultural tragedies which happened generations ago.
Grief is meant to flow through us – to wash through us. When allowed to flow, it digests our experience of loss for us. When restricted, it holds us in the past.
For a brief instant, step into the energy field of grief.
Memories may flash in you, like snapshots on a movie screen. You may feel sensations in your body or hear inner voices. Notice how your body reacts. Does it feel mournful, as if inside of you, your entire being is crying? What do you notice about your breathing? Is it open and easy … or shallow and tight? Be as alert as you can possibly be for these few moments.
Familiarize yourself with the energy field of grief so that you can recognize it as an observer in future. As you master this, you will become its ally and make way for it to pass through you, cleansing you. You will never ever need to languish in it again.
As soon as you have a sense of the energy field of grief, step out of it. Become an observer simply watching it – from the outside. This returns you to a place of choice.
Remember … We are traveling UP this ladder of emotions. Keep reading the upcoming posts, as we are not here to linger in Grief.
* This post is #39 in a series of in the syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World by Ariole K. Alei. Order the book – or instantly download a copy – here. Or listen to the 4-Part Audio Course.
* Image with gratitude to Jan Rosgen.
 These 17 levels of consciousness were first mapped by David R. Hawkins in Power vs. Force and developed as the ‘C-Walk’ (Consciousness Walk) by my co-founder of Veraxis and beloved soul friend, Colin Hillstrom.