2. Don't hurt anyone else. When you Move Anger Energy Constructively, no one else needs to be involved. As you mature in your relationship with anger (call me if you'd like 1-1 Coaching in this), you will be able to express it to other people in clean, non-codependent ways. Until then, explore this as a personal practice. Do you remember the 2nd Way to Express Anger? Lashing out with any degree of violence (aggression) results Continue Reading
Recognizing the ‘3 Ways to Express Anger’ in Your Life
Take a moment now to reflect on a recent situation in which you felt anger. How did you deal with it? Which of the 3 Ways to Express Anger did you engage in? Pause and take a breath. Remember an example - from your own life or that you have witnessed in someone else - of turning anger inward. What was the result? Did it resolve the situation at hand? Did it create a ripple effect of turmoil? For who? How? Take a moment to remember Continue Reading
3 Ways to Express Anger – #2
2. They (we) turn it outward - violently. We allow it to spin out of control. We lash out with it, so ashamed that we are feeling it that we double and triple it in proportion to itself. We fight, we fight with words, we undermine, we cut, we shoot, we steal, we rape, we … These 2 Ways to Express Anger are rife because we, as humanity, haven't evolved to recognize and practice the third. Now it's time. We are capable. Continue Reading
Gandhi – Self-Reflection as a Way of Leading (Part 1)
What’s so intriguing about Gandhi is how he transformed himself. One of the most influential people of all time, he didn’t lead a nation of 400 million Indians to freedom and self-government as the man he was when he began this epic journey. He led it as the man he was committed to becoming. Gandhi’s story – and his incredible and timely / timeless example to us – is that if something isn’t working, we must become what can allow Continue Reading
Underwhelming the Overwhelm – Part 1
In 1992 (some of you may not have been born then!) I felt called to participate ‘live’ in the most important global gathering of the century – the United Nations Earth Summit, to be held in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil. As I recall, some 180 heads of state gathered (an unprecedented showing) to discuss the critical implications of human development on the environment. Leading up to this monumental event, I noticed that something was Continue Reading
Contribution
There is a growing malaise in our culture, as more people work longer hours with less satisfaction – and in greater isolation – doing things that they know are unhealthy and contributing mindlessly to their individual and collective frustration. This is a growing epidemic – evident in everything from obesity to addictions to violence to suicide. So many people do work that they do not love, and stay in relationships Continue Reading
Ego’s Hold II
Further to “Ego’s Hold”, when Ego is unable to formulate a person’s identity, schisms occur.[1] Let’s dig in the soil to recognize some of these. Despite the reality that Ego ‘commission one’[2] is tasked with orienting the Soul in Space and Time, it, too, needs to have its bearings. This is perhaps the key reason why Ego creates ‘identity’. Identity – a perception of who one is – gives Ego its bearings. It identifies who the Continue Reading