Grief is the beginning of emotions washing through us to truly cleanse us. Grief occurs whenever we lose something - or something changes in our experience of it. There are five natural stages in grief, including disbelief, bargaining, sadness and anger. When we fully allow the course of grief to run through us, we arrive at acceptance. Acceptance is like a gate opening, encouraging and inviting us to move on. Many people get trapped Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – Intro
And so … as I guide you through this 'Map of Emotions',[1] keep in mind that you always have three options of how to relate to any of the emotions. I will guide you to briefly step inside of the energy field of each emotion to familiarize yourself with it. And then I will guide you to step out of it to the empowered place of the witness. This 'guided tour' is about lifting you out of denial and into your powerful recognition of the Continue Reading
3 Ways to Engage in Any Moment – #3
The third option - just like the 3rd Way to Express Anger - is largely unknown within our human culture. It is what meditators becomes so proficient at. It is simply observing. Witnessing. The power of the witness is little understood amongst humanity. Like in the quantum physics "observer effect", the power of the witnessing mind 'holds space' for transformation within the system that it is witnessing. We readily assume that, to Continue Reading
3 Ways to Engage in Any Moment – #1
Before we begin, let me draw to your attention that there are 3 Ways to Interface with Any Moment - and thus with any of the emotions that we are about to explore. The first option is denial - to 'not notice', to turn a blind eye, to be unconscious of. Denial serves a temporary purpose - sometimes. It allows us to remain unaware of something until we have the sufficient maturity, inner resources and attention available to deal with it. Continue Reading
Time Lags
Is there a time lag between when you actually begin to feel anger - and when you notice that you are feeling it or you did feel it, in the past? Does it take some time for you to awaken to its presence? Do you sense that sometimes you don't notice your anger at all? What do you feel 'instead of' anger? How do you mask it with other emotions - more 'acceptable' emotions? Or with activities, behaviors, speech or distracting thoughts? Continue Reading
Why Courage? – Part Two
Yes, we all have courage in some areas of our lives. Quite specifically, our courage lies in areas that we feel confident in. So what about the other areas – the topics and territories we’re less familiar with? We (our egos) show up shy there. We (they) doubt that we can respond without falling flat on our own faces. And so we back away. We turn our head. We avert our eyes. We ‘pretend’ that we’re not noticing. We pretend that nothing is Continue Reading