It becomes evident, now, why so many of us have learned to be afraid of anger - ours and other people's. There are 3 Ways to Express Anger. If we look around us on this precious planet, we notice that the first 2 of these 3 ways are predominant. Most people, in most situations involving anger, will express it in one of the first 2 ways. ____________ It becomes evident why so many of us have learned to be afraid of anger Continue Reading
Time Lags
Is there a time lag between when you actually begin to feel anger - and when you notice that you are feeling it or you did feel it, in the past? Does it take some time for you to awaken to its presence? Do you sense that sometimes you don't notice your anger at all? What do you feel 'instead of' anger? How do you mask it with other emotions - more 'acceptable' emotions? Or with activities, behaviors, speech or distracting thoughts? Continue Reading
Recognizing the 3 Purposes of Anger in Your Life
Take a moment to reflect on a recent situation in which you felt anger. Which of these 3 Purposes was the anger fulfilling? 1. Was the anger rising inside of you endeavoring to alert you to a boundary that had been breached? And / or to the need to create a boundary … precisely … 'there'? 2. Was the anger present inside of you endeavoring to alert you to this: that unless you erect or fortify a boundary, it is about to be breached? Was Continue Reading
3 Purposes of Anger – #3
3. The third way in which people begin to experience their anger is purely pro-active. This arisal of anger is how our soul entices us to grow. When we feel frustrated. When we feel 'fed up'. When we feel like we can't stand a situation any more - this is our soul nudging us to stretch out into a larger experience of ourselves and of life. Anger is what motivates us to grow. ____________ Anger is what motivates us Continue Reading
3 Purposes of Anger – #2
2. The second way in which most people - as they become more sensitive and alert to the nuances of anger - begin to recognize that they are experiencing anger is this: Before a boundary is about to be breached. They are attentive enough to their inner guidance - their inner wisdom - to recognize that their anger is a premonition. It is giving them foresight, encouraging them to erect a boundary before it is overstepped. As people Continue Reading
3 Purposes of Anger – #1
There are three distinct reasons why anger arises. Anger is an intelligence. It is our higher wisdom - our soul, our 'higher self' - speaking to us. Until now, we've not recognized this. And so we've not realized what it is saying. 1. The first way in which most people begin to recognize that they are experiencing anger is this: After a boundary has been breached. The purpose of anger in this case is to alert them to where Continue Reading
Anger and Humanity
Humanity is infantile in its relationship with anger. We discovered fire - thousands of years ago - and yet we haven't mastered anger. Our lack of understanding and respect for anger cripples us - individually, collectively and in relation to our environment. We lash out and we lash in. We do not - yet - use anger constructively as our ally. This is what this book is about. Changing this. Teaching humans how to befriend their anger - Continue Reading
Your Relationship With Anger – Part Two
____________ How Do You Relate To Anger? Reflect on your recent experiences - when someone was angry 'at' or near you. How did you respond? What did you feel inside? Reflect on your recent experiences - when you felt angry 'at' someone, an event, or something. How did you feel inside? How did you respond? What did you do? How did you feel then? Become more 'self aware'. Notice how you relate to anger - how you feel, how you Continue Reading
Your Relationship With Anger – Part One
Anger has been given a bad rap. For those of us who have grown up in a religiously tinged society, we have learned to perceive anger as something of disrepute; something to be avoided; something sinful; even something dangerous. Anger has traditionally been equated with the devil - with wrath. What are your attitudes about anger? What are your conditioned beliefs about anger? How do you relate to anger? Do you cower in its presence? Continue Reading
What Anger Is – Part Two
When uninterrupted, emotions 'arc' - just like a storm. First, there is a chill in the air, a gentle stirring. Then there is a mounting of energy, a building up of intrinsic power. Then there is a peak, a crest. Then there is a descent, into nothingness, as if the 'arc' never was. Yet … the air is gentler, softer, clearer after the storm. As humans in our codependent culture we have been taught to identify with our emotions and thus Continue Reading