Apathy is actually more energizing than shame or guilt. There is more potential for empowerment and self leadership here. Although there is an absence of inspiration or active energy, apathy is lighter and less 'fossilized'. In apathy there is a sense of hopelessness and despair - yet these perceptions exist only from within the vantage of being in apathy. As soon as we lift ourselves out of it - into the observer position or into an Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – #2 – Guilt
Guilt is slightly more energetic than shame. Healthy guilt does serve a purpose. When we do or say something which is derogatory or boundary breaching towards ourself or someone else, guilt arises to alert us to this. When we recognize our inappropriate behavior and discipline ourself to not engage in this again, the energy of guilt falls away. Its message has been received. There is no reason for it to linger. Many people wallow in Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – #1 – Shame
Shame is the most lowly emotion that a human experiences. There is no benefit in shame - no gain from experiencing it, no opposite to aspire to. Of all the emotions, it is the only one that is purposeless. It is shame from which we drop into absolute recklessness, carelessness and suicide - physically and metaphorically. Being the lowest or basest of the emotions on the rainbow, shame is often identified in the first chakra of the body - in Continue Reading
Recognizing the 3 Purposes of Anger in Your Life
Take a moment to reflect on a recent situation in which you felt anger. Which of these 3 Purposes was the anger fulfilling? 1. Was the anger rising inside of you endeavoring to alert you to a boundary that had been breached? And / or to the need to create a boundary … precisely … 'there'? 2. Was the anger present inside of you endeavoring to alert you to this: that unless you erect or fortify a boundary, it is about to be breached? Was Continue Reading
3 Purposes of Anger – #2
2. The second way in which most people - as they become more sensitive and alert to the nuances of anger - begin to recognize that they are experiencing anger is this: Before a boundary is about to be breached. They are attentive enough to their inner guidance - their inner wisdom - to recognize that their anger is a premonition. It is giving them foresight, encouraging them to erect a boundary before it is overstepped. As people Continue Reading
3 Purposes of Anger – #1
There are three distinct reasons why anger arises. Anger is an intelligence. It is our higher wisdom - our soul, our 'higher self' - speaking to us. Until now, we've not recognized this. And so we've not realized what it is saying. 1. The first way in which most people begin to recognize that they are experiencing anger is this: After a boundary has been breached. The purpose of anger in this case is to alert them to where Continue Reading
3 Purposes of Anger
There are 3 distinct reasons why anger arises. Anger is an intelligence. It is our higher wisdom - our soul, our 'higher self' - speaking to us. Until now, we've not recognized this. And so we've not realized what it is saying. 1. The first way in which most people begin to recognize that they are experiencing anger is this: After a boundary has been breached. The purpose of anger in this case is to alert them to Continue Reading