Here is a simple guide map for empowering you through healthy anger … 1. Notice when you are feeling anger. 2. Ask yourself: "Which of the '3 Purposes of Anger' is this?" (Has a boundary been violated; is a boundary about to be breached; is my soul calling me to grow?) 3. Notice any tendency in you to direct this anger inward or aggressively outward. Get yourself into your Observer Continue Reading
What are Boundaries? – Part One
Boundaries are the mechanisms via which we protect and enhance our integrity. It is easy for us to comprehend physical boundaries. We understand and we accept that fences are erected to keep dogs out of gardens and children in safe playgrounds. Longitudinal and latitudinal check points are maintained at roads and at ports to defend countries and to maintain their perceived sovereignty. We keep liquids that are poisonous locked away from Continue Reading
How to Use the ‘Map of Emotions’ – The Practice
____________ This is a practice. Just like any great artist or athlete, mastery arises through practice. ____________ This is a practice. Just like a great artist or athlete, mastery comes through practice. Every time you feel miserable, take a 'time out' to begin at Step 1 and work your way through to Step 4 or 5, whichever is appropriate for you. The more often you practice these simple Steps, you will personally gain an Continue Reading
How to Use the ‘Map of Emotions’
As you practice recognizing the emotions in you - just like a musician practices musical scales and an artist practices mixing paint - you can begin to use this awareness in an empowering, life-changing way. You are no longer at the whim of whatever emotion arises in you. You can determine what you feel, and when. Why is this so valuable? Because what we are feeling emotionally is a direct reflection of what we are thinking. And Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – #7 – Anger
Anger is among the most misunderstood and misconstrued energies in the human emotional spectrum. Anger is the 'rocket fuel' which propels us out of the lower, downward spiraling emotions (which, like opening a drain in a sink, act to suck us down). It is the power that blasts us up - into the realms of our true, glorious and benevolent nature. As we begin to recognize the '3 Purposes of Anger' and explore practicing the '3 Ways to Express Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – #6 – Desire
Desire is a natural and empowering emotion that has been used by religion as a means to deflate people's Will - simply because it has been accorded a connotation of being bad, sinful, and thus shameful. Pure desire is the soul's calling. Desiring something - wanting to experience something which we haven't yet - is one of the predominant ways in which our soul calls us into our greater potential. It entices us to want something to draw us Continue Reading
Where Your Anger Hides – Part Three
Take a moment to imagine a future situation in which anger arises in you - either 'provoked' by an outer circumstance, or simply because your soul is asking you - inviting you - to grow. Notice yourself making a more empowered choice - choosing to respond to the message of your anger and either create a boundary where it was breached, create a boundary before it is breached, or follow the fresh, new guidance of your soul. How do you Continue Reading
3 Ways to Move Anger Energy Constructively – #3
3. Creativity For some people pure body movement does the trick. For others, its anger carried out via the sound of their voice. For others, (and some of these same people, at different times), it's creative acts that are the best vehicle for expelling anger from inside the body. Paint - fully and unapologetically - with smears of red. Throw clay on your potter's table. Gouge gardener's claws into the earth. Dance it Continue Reading
3 Purposes of Anger – #2
2. The second way in which most people - as they become more sensitive and alert to the nuances of anger - begin to recognize that they are experiencing anger is this: Before a boundary is about to be breached. They are attentive enough to their inner guidance - their inner wisdom - to recognize that their anger is a premonition. It is giving them foresight, encouraging them to erect a boundary before it is overstepped. As people Continue Reading
Leaders and Followers – Part 2
For those of us who live lives where (yes, most of us do work ... and yet) we have ‘leisure time' – what do we use this leisure time, and energy, and attention for? We are droned to spend it glued in front of the television, the iPod, the cell phone, the computer, the … whatever electronic device you wish to name – without discernment. Without using these ‘tools’ as just that – communication devices that can deliver enriching, Continue Reading