Here is a simple guide map for empowering you through healthy anger … 1. Notice when you are feeling anger. 2. Ask yourself: "Which of the '3 Purposes of Anger' is this?" (Has a boundary been violated; is a boundary about to be breached; is my soul calling me to grow?) 3. Notice any tendency in you to direct this anger inward or aggressively outward. Get yourself into your Observer Continue Reading
Healing Ourselves – Healing Our Planet – Part Two
When we - individually and collectively - learn and practice the '3rd Way of Expressing Anger Constructively', there is no longer a danger of destruction in the face of our anger. In fact, our anger becomes purely constructive. It dismantles that which is obstructive to well-being. And in its former place it creates something refreshing and new. We might aptly call this 'de-constructive' - dismantling that which is untrue, that which is Continue Reading
The Faces of Anger
There are many faces of anger. Just like the Inuit who have some twenty-two words to describe the subtleties and nuances of what we call 'snow', there are many shades of anger. Let's explore some of these - to unmask them, shifting us into power - our ability to navigate our way through them and into greater joy. Frustration, irritation, edginess, resentment, passive aggressiveness, impatience, cynicism, sarcasm, pointed jokes, withdrawal, Continue Reading
3 Ways to Engage in Any Moment – #3
The third option - just like the 3rd Way to Express Anger - is largely unknown within our human culture. It is what meditators becomes so proficient at. It is simply observing. Witnessing. The power of the witness is little understood amongst humanity. Like in the quantum physics "observer effect", the power of the witnessing mind 'holds space' for transformation within the system that it is witnessing. We readily assume that, to Continue Reading
Where Your Anger Hides – Part Two
Take a moment to reflect ... In which of these area(s) do you most often feel angry? Write whatever comes into your awareness inside of these piece(s) of your pie. Use extra sheets of paper if you need more space. Take a moment just to breathe. Relax. When you feel ready to, notice one of the entries you've written in your pie. Which of the 3 Purposes of Anger was occurring? Can you identify it? How did you express this anger? Continue Reading
Where Your Anger Hides – Part One
Any anger that you've felt and not expressed - ever - is stored inside you, now. Let's shine a flashlight and gently uncover it. 'Life Wheel' Take a piece of paper and draw as large a circle as you can on it. Divide this circle into eight 'pieces of pie' - with one horizontal line running across it, one vertical line running from top to bottom of it, and these four quarters divided again in half. Eight pieces of pie. These are Continue Reading
Identifying ‘3 Ground Rules for Moving Anger’ in Your Life – Part 2
Notice How You Feel! By the way … how do you feel when you allow anger energy to move? Next time you spontaneously - or through intention - allow anger energy to move, notice how you feel. Does it liberate you? Do you feel ten years younger? Do you feel lighter, like an enormous weight has suddenly disappeared? Do you smile more often? Do you laugh? What life have you uncovered that was hidden beneath your crusty old Continue Reading
3 Ground Rules for Moving Anger – #2
2. Don't hurt anyone else. When you Move Anger Energy Constructively, no one else needs to be involved. As you mature in your relationship with anger (call me if you'd like 1-1 Coaching in this), you will be able to express it to other people in clean, non-codependent ways. Until then, explore this as a personal practice. Do you remember the 2nd Way to Express Anger? Lashing out with any degree of violence (aggression) results Continue Reading
Recognizing the ‘3 Ways to Express Anger’ in Your Life
Take a moment now to reflect on a recent situation in which you felt anger. How did you deal with it? Which of the 3 Ways to Express Anger did you engage in? Pause and take a breath. Remember an example - from your own life or that you have witnessed in someone else - of turning anger inward. What was the result? Did it resolve the situation at hand? Did it create a ripple effect of turmoil? For who? How? Take a moment to remember Continue Reading
3 Ways to Express Anger – #1
1. They (we) turn it inward. This results in depression, apathy, guilt, shame, moroseness, distancing, disconnection from society, addictions and even suicide. ____________ Listen to this post as a 'podcast'! '3 Ways to Express Anger' - #1 recorded using the omni-dimensional 'Star Microphone' by Wehnersound. ____________ * This post is #14 in a series of syndicated excerpts from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Continue Reading