Grief is the beginning of emotions washing through us to truly cleanse us. Grief occurs whenever we lose something - or something changes in our experience of it. There are five natural stages in grief, including disbelief, bargaining, sadness and anger. When we fully allow the course of grief to run through us, we arrive at acceptance. Acceptance is like a gate opening, encouraging and inviting us to move on. Many people get trapped Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – #1 – Shame
Shame is the most lowly emotion that a human experiences. There is no benefit in shame - no gain from experiencing it, no opposite to aspire to. Of all the emotions, it is the only one that is purposeless. It is shame from which we drop into absolute recklessness, carelessness and suicide - physically and metaphorically. Being the lowest or basest of the emotions on the rainbow, shame is often identified in the first chakra of the body - in Continue Reading
3 Ways to Engage in Any Moment – #3
The third option - just like the 3rd Way to Express Anger - is largely unknown within our human culture. It is what meditators becomes so proficient at. It is simply observing. Witnessing. The power of the witness is little understood amongst humanity. Like in the quantum physics "observer effect", the power of the witnessing mind 'holds space' for transformation within the system that it is witnessing. We readily assume that, to Continue Reading
Identifying ‘3 Ground Rules for Moving Anger’ in Your Life – Part 2
Notice How You Feel! By the way … how do you feel when you allow anger energy to move? Next time you spontaneously - or through intention - allow anger energy to move, notice how you feel. Does it liberate you? Do you feel ten years younger? Do you feel lighter, like an enormous weight has suddenly disappeared? Do you smile more often? Do you laugh? What life have you uncovered that was hidden beneath your crusty old Continue Reading
Identifying ‘3 Ground Rules for Moving Anger’ in Your Life – Part 1
In what ways do you already move anger - through Body Movement, Voice or Creativity - that you might not have realized until now? What ways arise in your awareness in this moment that you feel open to exploring? When will you? Set a date with yourself - before you chicken out. There's nothing to fear - except fear itself. Moving anger - as long as you follow the 3 Ground Rules - can not hurt you. Try this. Your illusion of fear towards Continue Reading
3 Ways to Move Anger Energy Constructively – #2
2. Voice For some people, voice is the most effective way to allow anger energy to move. Scream into a pillow to muffle the sound. Sing at the top of your lungs - in your car on the highway, or in the shower. Sing out loud to feisty music. You may at first be surprised by the grunts and growls that will erupt from deep in your vocal cords - actually, from deep in your belly. They may sound like primal sounds - and they are. Continue Reading
3 Ways to Move Anger Energy Constructively
Once we realize that there is a 3rd, 'new' option, we begin to discover a wealth of opportunity. For there are infinite ways to Move Anger Energy Constructively. As we recognize that anger energy - like all of the emotions - is meant to cleanse our being (our body, heart, spirit and mind), we enter an entirely new realm - largely uncharted by humanity. This realm is highly creative, inspiring and beneficial. It liberates us. Continue Reading
3 Ways to Express Anger – #2
2. They (we) turn it outward - violently. We allow it to spin out of control. We lash out with it, so ashamed that we are feeling it that we double and triple it in proportion to itself. We fight, we fight with words, we undermine, we cut, we shoot, we steal, we rape, we … These 2 Ways to Express Anger are rife because we, as humanity, haven't evolved to recognize and practice the third. Now it's time. We are capable. Continue Reading
Anger and Humanity
Humanity is infantile in its relationship with anger. We discovered fire - thousands of years ago - and yet we haven't mastered anger. Our lack of understanding and respect for anger cripples us - individually, collectively and in relation to our environment. We lash out and we lash in. We do not - yet - use anger constructively as our ally. This is what this book is about. Changing this. Teaching humans how to befriend their anger - Continue Reading
Your Relationship With Anger – Part Two
____________ How Do You Relate To Anger? Reflect on your recent experiences - when someone was angry 'at' or near you. How did you respond? What did you feel inside? Reflect on your recent experiences - when you felt angry 'at' someone, an event, or something. How did you feel inside? How did you respond? What did you do? How did you feel then? Become more 'self aware'. Notice how you relate to anger - how you feel, how you Continue Reading