Anger is always the soul calling us. Either it is identifying to us - through our experience of pain and betrayal - where a boundary needs to be created to repair and thus to preserve our integrity. Or it is identifying to us pro-actively - through evoking our anger or even our rage prior to a potential boundary breaching event - that a boundary we have in place is non-negotiable. Or - our anger, one of our most valuable inner Continue Reading
How to Use the ‘Map of Emotions’ – The Steps
____________ Why are we not taught this in kindergarten? This is absolutely essential in the 'guidebook' of how to successfully be a human. ____________ Step 1. Become self-aware. Notice how you are feeling. Does it feel good? Does it serve you? Does it inspire you? Does it support your mental, emotional and physical health? If you are already feeling good - great! You may wish to improve it. If Continue Reading
3 Ways to Engage in Any Moment – #2
The second option is to wallow in it. Many people in our culture are masters at this. The media thrives on it. Wallowing is about drama. It is about climbing inside a 'story' and stoking its fire with our attention. It is about exacerbating what is simply something to deal with - into something so colossal that it 'entertains' us. When we wallow in a moment - or in an emotion - we temporarily lose perspective. We believe that what Continue Reading
Where Your Anger Hides – Part Two
Take a moment to reflect ... In which of these area(s) do you most often feel angry? Write whatever comes into your awareness inside of these piece(s) of your pie. Use extra sheets of paper if you need more space. Take a moment just to breathe. Relax. When you feel ready to, notice one of the entries you've written in your pie. Which of the 3 Purposes of Anger was occurring? Can you identify it? How did you express this anger? Continue Reading
Identifying ‘3 Ground Rules for Moving Anger’ in Your Life – Part 2
Notice How You Feel! By the way … how do you feel when you allow anger energy to move? Next time you spontaneously - or through intention - allow anger energy to move, notice how you feel. Does it liberate you? Do you feel ten years younger? Do you feel lighter, like an enormous weight has suddenly disappeared? Do you smile more often? Do you laugh? What life have you uncovered that was hidden beneath your crusty old Continue Reading
Identifying ‘3 Ground Rules for Moving Anger’ in Your Life – Part 1
In what ways do you already move anger - through Body Movement, Voice or Creativity - that you might not have realized until now? What ways arise in your awareness in this moment that you feel open to exploring? When will you? Set a date with yourself - before you chicken out. There's nothing to fear - except fear itself. Moving anger - as long as you follow the 3 Ground Rules - can not hurt you. Try this. Your illusion of fear towards Continue Reading
3 Purposes of Anger – #1
There are three distinct reasons why anger arises. Anger is an intelligence. It is our higher wisdom - our soul, our 'higher self' - speaking to us. Until now, we've not recognized this. And so we've not realized what it is saying. 1. The first way in which most people begin to recognize that they are experiencing anger is this: After a boundary has been breached. The purpose of anger in this case is to alert them to where Continue Reading
What Anger Is – Part Two
When uninterrupted, emotions 'arc' - just like a storm. First, there is a chill in the air, a gentle stirring. Then there is a mounting of energy, a building up of intrinsic power. Then there is a peak, a crest. Then there is a descent, into nothingness, as if the 'arc' never was. Yet … the air is gentler, softer, clearer after the storm. As humans in our codependent culture we have been taught to identify with our emotions and thus Continue Reading