Healthy boundaries arise from the level of our instinct. They are our deeper wisdom's way of telling us what we need to do or say in order to preserve our well-being. As humans we spend a lot of time and resources creating and maintaining boundaries toward others and toward nature. We spend relatively little time and resources setting inner boundaries toward ourselves. It is the latter kind of boundary that hones our maturity - Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – #12 – Acceptance
Acceptance is the end of suffering. It is the final stage in grieving. It is the readiness to move on. When we are in acceptance we are out of control - out of our attempt to dominate our own outcome. The energy field of acceptance - just like all of the human emotions on this 'map' - is far more vast than the word suggests. When we are in acceptance, we are in a state of trust. We are in a state of willingness to participate and do Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – #11 – Willingness
Willingness is the first sign of 'spring' - of the maturity of the human mind/ego. It is the transition from mind/ego driven living to soul guided living. As we enter the energy field of willingness, we are open to ease, to synchronicities, to flow. We are open to 'miracles'. As we become willing, there is little to 'do'. We are less driven and more inspired. We shift from mind domination to a trust that something greater than us is Continue Reading
3 Ways to Engage in Any Moment – #1
Before we begin, let me draw to your attention that there are 3 Ways to Interface with Any Moment - and thus with any of the emotions that we are about to explore. The first option is denial - to 'not notice', to turn a blind eye, to be unconscious of. Denial serves a temporary purpose - sometimes. It allows us to remain unaware of something until we have the sufficient maturity, inner resources and attention available to deal with it. Continue Reading
Where Your Anger Hides – Part Three
Take a moment to imagine a future situation in which anger arises in you - either 'provoked' by an outer circumstance, or simply because your soul is asking you - inviting you - to grow. Notice yourself making a more empowered choice - choosing to respond to the message of your anger and either create a boundary where it was breached, create a boundary before it is breached, or follow the fresh, new guidance of your soul. How do you Continue Reading
Where Your Anger Hides – Part Two
Take a moment to reflect ... In which of these area(s) do you most often feel angry? Write whatever comes into your awareness inside of these piece(s) of your pie. Use extra sheets of paper if you need more space. Take a moment just to breathe. Relax. When you feel ready to, notice one of the entries you've written in your pie. Which of the 3 Purposes of Anger was occurring? Can you identify it? How did you express this anger? Continue Reading
Gandhi – Self-Reflection as a Way of Leading (Part 1)
What’s so intriguing about Gandhi is how he transformed himself. One of the most influential people of all time, he didn’t lead a nation of 400 million Indians to freedom and self-government as the man he was when he began this epic journey. He led it as the man he was committed to becoming. Gandhi’s story – and his incredible and timely / timeless example to us – is that if something isn’t working, we must become what can allow Continue Reading