Here is a simple guide map for empowering you through healthy anger … 1. Notice when you are feeling anger. 2. Ask yourself: "Which of the '3 Purposes of Anger' is this?" (Has a boundary been violated; is a boundary about to be breached; is my soul calling me to grow?) 3. Notice any tendency in you to direct this anger inward or aggressively outward. Get yourself into your Observer Continue Reading
How to Use the ‘Map of Emotions’ – The Steps
____________ Why are we not taught this in kindergarten? This is absolutely essential in the 'guidebook' of how to successfully be a human. ____________ Step 1. Become self-aware. Notice how you are feeling. Does it feel good? Does it serve you? Does it inspire you? Does it support your mental, emotional and physical health? If you are already feeling good - great! You may wish to improve it. If Continue Reading
Where Your Anger Hides – Part Two
Take a moment to reflect ... In which of these area(s) do you most often feel angry? Write whatever comes into your awareness inside of these piece(s) of your pie. Use extra sheets of paper if you need more space. Take a moment just to breathe. Relax. When you feel ready to, notice one of the entries you've written in your pie. Which of the 3 Purposes of Anger was occurring? Can you identify it? How did you express this anger? Continue Reading
Identifying ‘3 Ground Rules for Moving Anger’ in Your Life – Part 2
Notice How You Feel! By the way … how do you feel when you allow anger energy to move? Next time you spontaneously - or through intention - allow anger energy to move, notice how you feel. Does it liberate you? Do you feel ten years younger? Do you feel lighter, like an enormous weight has suddenly disappeared? Do you smile more often? Do you laugh? What life have you uncovered that was hidden beneath your crusty old Continue Reading
Time Lags
Is there a time lag between when you actually begin to feel anger - and when you notice that you are feeling it or you did feel it, in the past? Does it take some time for you to awaken to its presence? Do you sense that sometimes you don't notice your anger at all? What do you feel 'instead of' anger? How do you mask it with other emotions - more 'acceptable' emotions? Or with activities, behaviors, speech or distracting thoughts? Continue Reading
Your Relationship With Anger – Part Two
____________ How Do You Relate To Anger? Reflect on your recent experiences - when someone was angry 'at' or near you. How did you respond? What did you feel inside? Reflect on your recent experiences - when you felt angry 'at' someone, an event, or something. How did you feel inside? How did you respond? What did you do? How did you feel then? Become more 'self aware'. Notice how you relate to anger - how you feel, how you Continue Reading