Desire is a natural and empowering emotion that has been used by religion as a means to deflate people's Will - simply because it has been accorded a connotation of being bad, sinful, and thus shameful. Pure desire is the soul's calling. Desiring something - wanting to experience something which we haven't yet - is one of the predominant ways in which our soul calls us into our greater potential. It entices us to want something to draw us Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – #5 – Fear
Fear is the domain in which many people live. Our media feeds on this. Fear sells. Fear is an absence of faith - an absence of trust in ourselves, the universe and the ultimate goodness of humankind. Many people live in mind-made stories which evoke fear. Most fear is not 'real' - it is not a response to real and true danger in the moment. Most fear is a negative 'food source' of our mind. When you notice that you feel afraid, ask Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – #4 – Grief
Grief is the beginning of emotions washing through us to truly cleanse us. Grief occurs whenever we lose something - or something changes in our experience of it. There are five natural stages in grief, including disbelief, bargaining, sadness and anger. When we fully allow the course of grief to run through us, we arrive at acceptance. Acceptance is like a gate opening, encouraging and inviting us to move on. Many people get trapped Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – #3 – Apathy
Apathy is actually more energizing than shame or guilt. There is more potential for empowerment and self leadership here. Although there is an absence of inspiration or active energy, apathy is lighter and less 'fossilized'. In apathy there is a sense of hopelessness and despair - yet these perceptions exist only from within the vantage of being in apathy. As soon as we lift ourselves out of it - into the observer position or into an Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – #2 – Guilt
Guilt is slightly more energetic than shame. Healthy guilt does serve a purpose. When we do or say something which is derogatory or boundary breaching towards ourself or someone else, guilt arises to alert us to this. When we recognize our inappropriate behavior and discipline ourself to not engage in this again, the energy of guilt falls away. Its message has been received. There is no reason for it to linger. Many people wallow in Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – #1 – Shame
Shame is the most lowly emotion that a human experiences. There is no benefit in shame - no gain from experiencing it, no opposite to aspire to. Of all the emotions, it is the only one that is purposeless. It is shame from which we drop into absolute recklessness, carelessness and suicide - physically and metaphorically. Being the lowest or basest of the emotions on the rainbow, shame is often identified in the first chakra of the body - in Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – Intro
And so … as I guide you through this 'Map of Emotions',[1] keep in mind that you always have three options of how to relate to any of the emotions. I will guide you to briefly step inside of the energy field of each emotion to familiarize yourself with it. And then I will guide you to step out of it to the empowered place of the witness. This 'guided tour' is about lifting you out of denial and into your powerful recognition of the Continue Reading
3 Ways to Engage in Any Moment – #3
The third option - just like the 3rd Way to Express Anger - is largely unknown within our human culture. It is what meditators becomes so proficient at. It is simply observing. Witnessing. The power of the witness is little understood amongst humanity. Like in the quantum physics "observer effect", the power of the witnessing mind 'holds space' for transformation within the system that it is witnessing. We readily assume that, to Continue Reading
3 Ways to Engage in Any Moment – #2
The second option is to wallow in it. Many people in our culture are masters at this. The media thrives on it. Wallowing is about drama. It is about climbing inside a 'story' and stoking its fire with our attention. It is about exacerbating what is simply something to deal with - into something so colossal that it 'entertains' us. When we wallow in a moment - or in an emotion - we temporarily lose perspective. We believe that what Continue Reading
3 Ways to Engage in Any Moment – #1
Before we begin, let me draw to your attention that there are 3 Ways to Interface with Any Moment - and thus with any of the emotions that we are about to explore. The first option is denial - to 'not notice', to turn a blind eye, to be unconscious of. Denial serves a temporary purpose - sometimes. It allows us to remain unaware of something until we have the sufficient maturity, inner resources and attention available to deal with it. Continue Reading