2. Don't hurt anyone else. When you Move Anger Energy Constructively, no one else needs to be involved. As you mature in your relationship with anger (call me if you'd like 1-1 Coaching in this), you will be able to express it to other people in clean, non-codependent ways. Until then, explore this as a personal practice. Do you remember the 2nd Way to Express Anger? Lashing out with any degree of violence (aggression) results Continue Reading
3 Ground Rules for Moving Anger – #1
As you begin to roll up your sleeves, open your voice and get into this (you will be enormously energized by doing so), it is important to set 3 Ground Rules for Safety. 1. Don't hurt yourself. If, for instance, you are Moving Anger Energy by pounding your fists into the mattress of a bed, take a lucid moment to ensure that there are no sharp objects. When we truly begin to explore this 3rd Way of Expressing Anger, there is Continue Reading
3 Ways to Move Anger Energy Constructively – #3
3. Creativity For some people pure body movement does the trick. For others, its anger carried out via the sound of their voice. For others, (and some of these same people, at different times), it's creative acts that are the best vehicle for expelling anger from inside the body. Paint - fully and unapologetically - with smears of red. Throw clay on your potter's table. Gouge gardener's claws into the earth. Dance it Continue Reading
3 Ways to Move Anger Energy Constructively – #1
1. Body Movement The anger energy surging through us just wants to move. Its job - just like the water surging within a river - is to flow through and out of us. As it does, it will leave us refreshed - renewed. One of the most effective Ways to allow this energy to move is through our body. If you are innately a physical person, you will love this. Allowing anger energy to move through the body can be effective through Continue Reading
3 Ways to Move Anger Energy Constructively
Once we realize that there is a 3rd, 'new' option, we begin to discover a wealth of opportunity. For there are infinite ways to Move Anger Energy Constructively. As we recognize that anger energy - like all of the emotions - is meant to cleanse our being (our body, heart, spirit and mind), we enter an entirely new realm - largely uncharted by humanity. This realm is highly creative, inspiring and beneficial. It liberates us. Continue Reading
Recognizing the ‘3 Ways to Express Anger’ in Your Life
Take a moment now to reflect on a recent situation in which you felt anger. How did you deal with it? Which of the 3 Ways to Express Anger did you engage in? Pause and take a breath. Remember an example - from your own life or that you have witnessed in someone else - of turning anger inward. What was the result? Did it resolve the situation at hand? Did it create a ripple effect of turmoil? For who? How? Take a moment to remember Continue Reading
3 Ways to Express Anger – #3
3. They (we) simply allow this neutral, powerful, creative energy to move. Do you remember what the function of our emotions is? The role of our emotions is to cleanse us - to wash our 'now' experiences through us and transport us fresh into our next moment. Our emotions are like a river, carrying us from one moment - one experience - to the next. They rinse our experiences through us, cleansing us as they do. When we Continue Reading
3 Ways to Express Anger – #2
2. They (we) turn it outward - violently. We allow it to spin out of control. We lash out with it, so ashamed that we are feeling it that we double and triple it in proportion to itself. We fight, we fight with words, we undermine, we cut, we shoot, we steal, we rape, we … These 2 Ways to Express Anger are rife because we, as humanity, haven't evolved to recognize and practice the third. Now it's time. We are capable. Continue Reading
3 Ways to Express Anger
It becomes evident, now, why so many of us have learned to be afraid of anger - ours and other people's. There are 3 Ways to Express Anger. If we look around us on this precious planet, we notice that the first 2 of these 3 ways are predominant. Most people, in most situations involving anger, will express it in one of the first 2 ways. ____________ It becomes evident why so many of us have learned to be afraid of anger Continue Reading
Time Lags
Is there a time lag between when you actually begin to feel anger - and when you notice that you are feeling it or you did feel it, in the past? Does it take some time for you to awaken to its presence? Do you sense that sometimes you don't notice your anger at all? What do you feel 'instead of' anger? How do you mask it with other emotions - more 'acceptable' emotions? Or with activities, behaviors, speech or distracting thoughts? Continue Reading