Here is a simple guide map for empowering you through healthy anger … 1. Notice when you are feeling anger. 2. Ask yourself: "Which of the '3 Purposes of Anger' is this?" (Has a boundary been violated; is a boundary about to be breached; is my soul calling me to grow?) 3. Notice any tendency in you to direct this anger inward or aggressively outward. Get yourself into your Observer Continue Reading
What are Boundaries? – Part One
Boundaries are the mechanisms via which we protect and enhance our integrity. It is easy for us to comprehend physical boundaries. We understand and we accept that fences are erected to keep dogs out of gardens and children in safe playgrounds. Longitudinal and latitudinal check points are maintained at roads and at ports to defend countries and to maintain their perceived sovereignty. We keep liquids that are poisonous locked away from Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – #1 – Shame
Shame is the most lowly emotion that a human experiences. There is no benefit in shame - no gain from experiencing it, no opposite to aspire to. Of all the emotions, it is the only one that is purposeless. It is shame from which we drop into absolute recklessness, carelessness and suicide - physically and metaphorically. Being the lowest or basest of the emotions on the rainbow, shame is often identified in the first chakra of the body - in Continue Reading
Where Your Anger Hides – Part Three
Take a moment to imagine a future situation in which anger arises in you - either 'provoked' by an outer circumstance, or simply because your soul is asking you - inviting you - to grow. Notice yourself making a more empowered choice - choosing to respond to the message of your anger and either create a boundary where it was breached, create a boundary before it is breached, or follow the fresh, new guidance of your soul. How do you Continue Reading
Identifying ‘3 Ground Rules for Moving Anger’ in Your Life – Part 1
In what ways do you already move anger - through Body Movement, Voice or Creativity - that you might not have realized until now? What ways arise in your awareness in this moment that you feel open to exploring? When will you? Set a date with yourself - before you chicken out. There's nothing to fear - except fear itself. Moving anger - as long as you follow the 3 Ground Rules - can not hurt you. Try this. Your illusion of fear towards Continue Reading
3 Ground Rules for Moving Anger – #3
3. Don't hurt anything else. This is my personal value system. I know that everything is consciousness. If this fits for you, own this 3rd Rule. Nature is dying, quite literally, for us to release our pent up anger, pain and sorrow. As we do, She knows we'll be refreshed. Our Vision will be clear. Our Hearts will be open. We will awaken - as if from a long dream, a nightmare - and remember that we love each other - Continue Reading
3 Ground Rules for Moving Anger – #1
As you begin to roll up your sleeves, open your voice and get into this (you will be enormously energized by doing so), it is important to set 3 Ground Rules for Safety. 1. Don't hurt yourself. If, for instance, you are Moving Anger Energy by pounding your fists into the mattress of a bed, take a lucid moment to ensure that there are no sharp objects. When we truly begin to explore this 3rd Way of Expressing Anger, there is Continue Reading
3 Ways to Move Anger Energy Constructively – #3
3. Creativity For some people pure body movement does the trick. For others, its anger carried out via the sound of their voice. For others, (and some of these same people, at different times), it's creative acts that are the best vehicle for expelling anger from inside the body. Paint - fully and unapologetically - with smears of red. Throw clay on your potter's table. Gouge gardener's claws into the earth. Dance it Continue Reading
3 Ways to Move Anger Energy Constructively – #2
2. Voice For some people, voice is the most effective way to allow anger energy to move. Scream into a pillow to muffle the sound. Sing at the top of your lungs - in your car on the highway, or in the shower. Sing out loud to feisty music. You may at first be surprised by the grunts and growls that will erupt from deep in your vocal cords - actually, from deep in your belly. They may sound like primal sounds - and they are. Continue Reading
3 Ways to Move Anger Energy Constructively
Once we realize that there is a 3rd, 'new' option, we begin to discover a wealth of opportunity. For there are infinite ways to Move Anger Energy Constructively. As we recognize that anger energy - like all of the emotions - is meant to cleanse our being (our body, heart, spirit and mind), we enter an entirely new realm - largely uncharted by humanity. This realm is highly creative, inspiring and beneficial. It liberates us. Continue Reading