It’s an interesting question to ask. We typically think of ‘anger issues’ as anger towards – someone or something. As in, “I have an issue with you / with that. It / you evoke anger in me.”
Often, we perceive that our experience of anger is the other person / the other thing’s ‘fault’.
The ‘issue’ is perceived as being ‘out there’ – held by that which triggers, or evokes, our anger.
Sometimes, ‘anger issue’ is used to describe a person’s difficulty in dealing with their anger in a healthy, constructive way.
I’m going to suggest that ‘anger issue’ is actually our culture’s – perhaps even our species’ ineptitude in constructively, co-creatively existing with, and responding to, the presence of anger.
It is not anger that is the issue. It is our unrefined, undeveloped relationship to it – with it – that is calling for our attention.
Even more so, we so desperately need anger models – in our families, our communities, our nations, our inter-nations – people who show us, through their demonstration, how to relate in healthy, constructive ways with anger.
As we’ll see in the forthcoming ‘syndicated excerpts’ from the book The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World, constructively moving anger is the ‘third option’; the ‘healthy option’; the ‘constructive option’. Currently, we have very few models of it to emulate. Let’s change this. Let’s become one!
Read more in recent posts plus upcoming ‘syndicated excerpts’ from The Power of Anger – Blasting Through Your Limitations and Transforming The World by Ariole K. Alei. Order the book – or instantly download a copy – here. Or listen to the 4-Part Audio Course.
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