Grief is the beginning of emotions washing through us to truly cleanse us. Grief occurs whenever we lose something - or something changes in our experience of it. There are five natural stages in grief, including disbelief, bargaining, sadness and anger. When we fully allow the course of grief to run through us, we arrive at acceptance. Acceptance is like a gate opening, encouraging and inviting us to move on. Many people get trapped Continue Reading
3 Ways to Engage in Any Moment – #3
The third option - just like the 3rd Way to Express Anger - is largely unknown within our human culture. It is what meditators becomes so proficient at. It is simply observing. Witnessing. The power of the witness is little understood amongst humanity. Like in the quantum physics "observer effect", the power of the witnessing mind 'holds space' for transformation within the system that it is witnessing. We readily assume that, to Continue Reading
3 Ways to Engage in Any Moment – #2
The second option is to wallow in it. Many people in our culture are masters at this. The media thrives on it. Wallowing is about drama. It is about climbing inside a 'story' and stoking its fire with our attention. It is about exacerbating what is simply something to deal with - into something so colossal that it 'entertains' us. When we wallow in a moment - or in an emotion - we temporarily lose perspective. We believe that what Continue Reading
Identifying ‘3 Ground Rules for Moving Anger’ in Your Life – Part 1
In what ways do you already move anger - through Body Movement, Voice or Creativity - that you might not have realized until now? What ways arise in your awareness in this moment that you feel open to exploring? When will you? Set a date with yourself - before you chicken out. There's nothing to fear - except fear itself. Moving anger - as long as you follow the 3 Ground Rules - can not hurt you. Try this. Your illusion of fear towards Continue Reading
3 Purposes of Anger – #1
There are three distinct reasons why anger arises. Anger is an intelligence. It is our higher wisdom - our soul, our 'higher self' - speaking to us. Until now, we've not recognized this. And so we've not realized what it is saying. 1. The first way in which most people begin to recognize that they are experiencing anger is this: After a boundary has been breached. The purpose of anger in this case is to alert them to where Continue Reading
Anger and Humanity
Humanity is infantile in its relationship with anger. We discovered fire - thousands of years ago - and yet we haven't mastered anger. Our lack of understanding and respect for anger cripples us - individually, collectively and in relation to our environment. We lash out and we lash in. We do not - yet - use anger constructively as our ally. This is what this book is about. Changing this. Teaching humans how to befriend their anger - Continue Reading
Your Relationship With Anger – Part Two
____________ How Do You Relate To Anger? Reflect on your recent experiences - when someone was angry 'at' or near you. How did you respond? What did you feel inside? Reflect on your recent experiences - when you felt angry 'at' someone, an event, or something. How did you feel inside? How did you respond? What did you do? How did you feel then? Become more 'self aware'. Notice how you relate to anger - how you feel, how you Continue Reading
Is There Such A Thing As An ‘Anger Issue’?
It’s an interesting question to ask. We typically think of ‘anger issues’ as anger towards – someone or something. As in, “I have an issue with you / with that. It / you evoke anger in me.” Often, we perceive that our experience of anger is the other person / the other thing's ‘fault’. The ‘issue’ is perceived as being ‘out there’ – held by that which triggers, or evokes, our anger. Sometimes, ‘anger issue’ is used to describe a Continue Reading
Cultivating Courage
I had a recent visit with family in which I realized how little courage I have developed as part of our co-dependent culture. I am and have been courageous in remarkable ways in my life – solo dance touring, spending 7 ½ months alone attuning to the great mysteries of the world, launching companies and non-profit societies, backpacking alone in the wilderness … And yet, there are great gaps. And so, I Continue Reading
Contribution
There is a growing malaise in our culture, as more people work longer hours with less satisfaction – and in greater isolation – doing things that they know are unhealthy and contributing mindlessly to their individual and collective frustration. This is a growing epidemic – evident in everything from obesity to addictions to violence to suicide. So many people do work that they do not love, and stay in relationships Continue Reading