When we - individually and collectively - learn and practice the '3rd Way of Expressing Anger Constructively', there is no longer a danger of destruction in the face of our anger. In fact, our anger becomes purely constructive. It dismantles that which is obstructive to well-being. And in its former place it creates something refreshing and new. We might aptly call this 'de-constructive' - dismantling that which is untrue, that which is Continue Reading
What are Boundaries? – Part Two
Healthy boundaries arise from the level of our instinct. They are our deeper wisdom's way of telling us what we need to do or say in order to preserve our well-being. As humans we spend a lot of time and resources creating and maintaining boundaries toward others and toward nature. We spend relatively little time and resources setting inner boundaries toward ourselves. It is the latter kind of boundary that hones our maturity - Continue Reading
How to Use the ‘Map of Emotions’ – The Steps
____________ Why are we not taught this in kindergarten? This is absolutely essential in the 'guidebook' of how to successfully be a human. ____________ Step 1. Become self-aware. Notice how you are feeling. Does it feel good? Does it serve you? Does it inspire you? Does it support your mental, emotional and physical health? If you are already feeling good - great! You may wish to improve it. If Continue Reading
The ‘Map of Emotions’ – #5 – Fear
Fear is the domain in which many people live. Our media feeds on this. Fear sells. Fear is an absence of faith - an absence of trust in ourselves, the universe and the ultimate goodness of humankind. Many people live in mind-made stories which evoke fear. Most fear is not 'real' - it is not a response to real and true danger in the moment. Most fear is a negative 'food source' of our mind. When you notice that you feel afraid, ask Continue Reading
Recognizing the 3 Purposes of Anger in Your Life
Take a moment to reflect on a recent situation in which you felt anger. Which of these 3 Purposes was the anger fulfilling? 1. Was the anger rising inside of you endeavoring to alert you to a boundary that had been breached? And / or to the need to create a boundary … precisely … 'there'? 2. Was the anger present inside of you endeavoring to alert you to this: that unless you erect or fortify a boundary, it is about to be breached? Was Continue Reading
3 Purposes of Anger – #2
2. The second way in which most people - as they become more sensitive and alert to the nuances of anger - begin to recognize that they are experiencing anger is this: Before a boundary is about to be breached. They are attentive enough to their inner guidance - their inner wisdom - to recognize that their anger is a premonition. It is giving them foresight, encouraging them to erect a boundary before it is overstepped. As people Continue Reading
3 Purposes of Anger – #1
There are three distinct reasons why anger arises. Anger is an intelligence. It is our higher wisdom - our soul, our 'higher self' - speaking to us. Until now, we've not recognized this. And so we've not realized what it is saying. 1. The first way in which most people begin to recognize that they are experiencing anger is this: After a boundary has been breached. The purpose of anger in this case is to alert them to where Continue Reading
Subtle Energy Fields – Part 2
I – like thousands of people on this precious planet – am highly sensitive to subtle energy. My home is an extension of my energy field. And so whatever enters my home enters my energy field. How I came to this ‘aha’ realization was through two flashes from my past: 1) In the 1980’s, when I first began sharing homes with ‘strangers’ (house-mates), I became aware that I have a natural affinity for Feng Shui – the Continue Reading
Abdication of Power – Part 2
When we retain our power, on the other hand, we become response-able again. We both maintain within ourselves the wisdom that is always there, that always knows, if we listen deeply enough, what it that we must do to pro-actively ensure our well-being and responsively course correct when it is amiss. And we retain the 100% responsibility for our outcome. This is frightening for many people simply because they haven’t practiced Continue Reading
4 Steps to Plenty – Part 3
It can be very helpful, too, to find a group of people (or even just one) to practice these steps with. For your collective energy will make the rocking back, gaining momentum and determination, and revving forward so much quicker, easier and more fun. "Life Was Never Meant to Be a Struggle" – Stuart Wilde "When did you sign a Contract to struggle?" – Ariole K. Alei[1] Learning the steps to Continue Reading