When we - individually and collectively - learn and practice the '3rd Way of Expressing Anger Constructively', there is no longer a danger of destruction in the face of our anger. In fact, our anger becomes purely constructive. It dismantles that which is obstructive to well-being. And in its former place it creates something refreshing and new. We might aptly call this 'de-constructive' - dismantling that which is untrue, that which is Continue Reading
Healing Ourselves – Healing Our Planet – Part One
Our pure anger energy has the power to blast us out of perpetual suffering and into a new realm of what it means to be human. Our anger - just like a rocket being propelled out of the earth's atmosphere into 'space' and ultimately into the magnetic field of another planet or the moon - is the power to propel us there. Without access to our anger, we are all but doomed. For no other human or non-human energy - beyond the purity of LOVE Continue Reading
The Faces of Anger
There are many faces of anger. Just like the Inuit who have some twenty-two words to describe the subtleties and nuances of what we call 'snow', there are many shades of anger. Let's explore some of these - to unmask them, shifting us into power - our ability to navigate our way through them and into greater joy. Frustration, irritation, edginess, resentment, passive aggressiveness, impatience, cynicism, sarcasm, pointed jokes, withdrawal, Continue Reading
What are Boundaries? – Part Two
Healthy boundaries arise from the level of our instinct. They are our deeper wisdom's way of telling us what we need to do or say in order to preserve our well-being. As humans we spend a lot of time and resources creating and maintaining boundaries toward others and toward nature. We spend relatively little time and resources setting inner boundaries toward ourselves. It is the latter kind of boundary that hones our maturity - Continue Reading
How to Use the ‘Map of Emotions’ – The Practice
____________ This is a practice. Just like any great artist or athlete, mastery arises through practice. ____________ This is a practice. Just like a great artist or athlete, mastery comes through practice. Every time you feel miserable, take a 'time out' to begin at Step 1 and work your way through to Step 4 or 5, whichever is appropriate for you. The more often you practice these simple Steps, you will personally gain an Continue Reading
How to Use the ‘Map of Emotions’ – The Steps
____________ Why are we not taught this in kindergarten? This is absolutely essential in the 'guidebook' of how to successfully be a human. ____________ Step 1. Become self-aware. Notice how you are feeling. Does it feel good? Does it serve you? Does it inspire you? Does it support your mental, emotional and physical health? If you are already feeling good - great! You may wish to improve it. If Continue Reading
Where Anger ‘Fits’ – Part Two
With this map in hand you will recognize the enormous value of befriending your anger - and the astronomical cost of failing to do so. ____________ At the end of this journey I will highlight for you a simple practice of how to - at will - position yourself anywhere on this emotional rainbow you wish to be. This ... is empowerment. This ... is liberation. ____________ Listen to this post as a ‘podcast’! Continue Reading
Cultivating Courage – The Practice – Part 2
So what are some ideas – that I’ve tried and can guarantee work – that might start you on your way of ‘cultivating courage’? Here are a few that I’ve chosen in my first week … Leaving clothes unfolded in my pack sack when I knew they’d be going straight into laundry when I got home from my camping trip. (I’m typically a very neat person.) Repeating the same the next day – this time with the Continue Reading
Cultivating Courage – The Practice – Part 1
I heard a few years ago – and this amazed me and ‘struck me between the eyes’, for it is so profoundly true – that the primary reason why people say ‘no’ to invitations that would nourish and inspire them is that they haven’t figured out how they can say ‘yes’. They haven’t figured out how it can work for them. Simply put, they need a map. They need to ‘see how it is possible’. They need a way-shower, someone to demonstrate or Continue Reading
Cultivating Courage
I had a recent visit with family in which I realized how little courage I have developed as part of our co-dependent culture. I am and have been courageous in remarkable ways in my life – solo dance touring, spending 7 ½ months alone attuning to the great mysteries of the world, launching companies and non-profit societies, backpacking alone in the wilderness … And yet, there are great gaps. And so, I Continue Reading